Are you confused? 

Do you feel lost and alone?

Do you feel like you are just barely holding it together? 

Are you afraid that if one more thing comes at you, you will fall apart?

Do you overreact sometimes only to feel flat or numb at other times?

Are you secretly afraid you have nothing to offer the world and your life is meaningless?

 

I have been there myself. I felt alone and struggled with despair, self-criticism and self-hatred. I did not think I could ever have a full and rewarding life, much less a good relationship with myself.

 

I became a counsellor because counselling helped me to integrate my painful past and build a life I love.  I know that we human beings have an amazing capacity to heal!

 

I work with men who have been hurt and have learned to survive but maybe not yet learned to thrive.

   

I work with men who have experienced violence, threats, intimidation and sexual abuse.

   

I work with men who have used violence, threats and intimidation against others.

   

I work with men who are being abused by their partners.

   

I work with fathers who want something different for their children than what they had growing up.

 

I work with Indigenous people and have worked in communities for ten years. The stories and teachings I received have enriched my life and they inform my counselling practice. I welcome the chance to treat you with the same respect and generosity that has been shown to me by your Elders, your frontline workers, your leaders and your youth.

    Colleen Stevenson registered clinical counsellor (RCC) in Victoria BC, individual and couples counselling

Email me for a complimentary 20 minute telephone consultation.

Evening and weekend appointments available

How I work

Understanding
I want to understand what you are going through and what matters to you. I will listen generously and deeply. I will ask questions, diagram, sketch and reflect what I hear so I can "get it." And I will invite you to correct me if I don't "get it."
Looking at reality
Together we will get clear on what can change and what cannot change. On the side of change, we will look for supports and mentors; we will break it down into steps and prioritize. On the side of what cannot change we will do the work of acceptance.
Connecting
We will look for ways you can connect with others (people alive or past, places, animals), connect with what you care about – your sense of purpose, your beliefs, commitments and values - and connect with yourself so you can learn to count on your own friendship.

Thoughts and Ponderings

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What exactly is counselling?

  Many people ask me and others probably wonder: what exactly is counselling?   Counselling is not about healing others. I don’t heal anyone. I walk alongside the men* I work with as they heal themselves.   When I work with a man, I start by being in his corner so that he can learn […]

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A Picture of Men’s Shame

Let me paint a picture for you. This is what men’s shame looks like in my counselling practice: Shame is the curve of your shoulders as you sits hunched in your chair across from me, almost cowering Shame is the nervous laughter when I comment on something unique or strong about you and you just […]

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Accountability Without Shame

You have a sick feeling in your stomach, a dread. You have a voice inside that has started telling you that you’re a piece of shit for what you did. Sometimes the voice whispers at you and sometimes it screams. It is there in your quiet moments when you are just trying to relax. It […]

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