Self-Esteem Separates

Here’s another take on scarcity consciousness from a different perspective from psychologist Kristen Neff’s work on self-compassion. In this TED talk, Neff talks about the emphasis on self-esteem in psychology. Recently researchers have started revealing some significant limits to self-esteem for mental, emotional, spiritual and relational wellness. Neff says: “If you have low self-esteem… you’re […]

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Scarcity Consciousness

One of the people who has been a tremendous influence in my life and the lives of so many is the vulnerability and shame researcher, Brene Brown. I had the joy of meeting her and recording her keynote address at a leadership conference with the Fraser Health Authority in 2011 and she is every bit […]

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Shenpa or Fixed Mind

In listening to several of Pema Chödrön’s audiobooks over the holidays (Walking the Walk and Getting Unstuck: Breaking Your Habitual Patterns and Encountering Naked Reality, both available here) I have noticed a gentle opening in my mindfulness practice. As I learn about the Tibetan concept of shenpa, I am feeling myself lightening up in my daily […]

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More Thoughts on Kindness

I am curious about the connection between kindness and not knowing. I have been listening to Pema Chodron’s beautiful wee audiobook Practicing Peace in Times of War. She talks about peace coming about when we soften that which is hard in our heart. Where am I hard in my heart? Where do I feel tight and […]

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Some Thoughts on Kindness

I have been thinking a lot about kindness. The Dalai Lama said, “My true religion is Kindness.” What does this mean for me? How do I put this into practice? And what place does kindness have in counselling? How is kindness different from niceness in counselling? To the last question, I see a profound difference […]

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