Self-Esteem Separates

Here’s another take on scarcity consciousness from a different perspective from psychologist Kristen Neff’s work on self-compassion. In this TED talk, Neff talks about the emphasis on self-esteem in psychology. Recently researchers have started revealing some significant limits to self-esteem for mental, emotional, spiritual and relational wellness. Neff says: “If you have low self-esteem… you’re […]

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More Thoughts on Kindness

I am curious about the connection between kindness and not knowing. I have been listening to Pema Chodron’s┬ábeautiful wee audiobook Practicing Peace in Times of War. She talks about peace coming about when we soften that which is hard in our heart. Where am I hard in my heart? Where do I feel tight and […]

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Some Thoughts on Kindness

I have been thinking a lot about kindness. The Dalai Lama said, “My true religion is Kindness.” What does this mean for me? How do I put this into practice? And what place does kindness have in counselling? How is kindness different from niceness in counselling? To the last question, I see a profound difference […]

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