Visual Counselling: Using Illustration in Sessions

People rarely come to counselling when they are feeling fantastic. They come to counselling because they want to change something; they feel out of balance or they are stuck in a pattern. In short, they come because of some problem. So naturally the first step is to identify the problem. While it is reasonable and […]

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Saying yes to the whole beautiful mess

This idea of acceptance has me wrapt. It is no small thing to accept the life I have: my past with all its pains, heartaches and mistakes; my present with all the worries and fears, risks and uncertainties of a career and home and family; my rapidly growing city with its few secure jobs, its […]

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Self-Esteem Separates

Here’s another take on scarcity consciousness from a different perspective from psychologist Kristen Neff’s work on self-compassion. In this TED talk, Neff talks about the emphasis on self-esteem in psychology. Recently researchers have started revealing some significant limits to self-esteem for mental, emotional, spiritual and relational wellness. Neff says: “If you have low self-esteem… you’re […]

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Shenpa or Fixed Mind

In listening to several of Pema Chödrön’s audiobooks over the holidays (Walking the Walk and Getting Unstuck: Breaking Your Habitual Patterns and Encountering Naked Reality, both available here) I have noticed a gentle opening in my mindfulness practice. As I learn about the Tibetan concept of shenpa, I am feeling myself lightening up in my daily […]

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