What exactly is counselling?
A Picture of Men’s Shame
Many people ask me and others probably wonder: what exactly is counselling? Counselling is not about healing others. I don’t heal anyone. I walk alongside the men* I work with as they heal themselves. When I work with a man, I start by being in his corner so that he can learn […]
An Invitation to Play
Let me paint a picture for you. This is what men’s shame looks like in my counselling practice: Shame is the curve of your shoulders as you sits hunched in your chair across from me, almost cowering Shame is the nervous laughter when I comment on something unique or strong about you and you just […]
I was raised with a strong work ethic: we worked hard and dealt with what needed to be done without letting things pile up. I am grateful for that and it has served me well in my life. The need to be productive became a huge driver in my life. What could possibly be wrong […]
Here’s another take on scarcity consciousness from a different perspective from psychologist Kristen Neff’s work on self-compassion. In this TED talk, Neff talks about the emphasis on self-esteem in psychology. Recently researchers have started revealing some significant limits to self-esteem for mental, emotional, spiritual and relational wellness. Neff says: “If you have low self-esteem… you’re […]