What exactly is counselling?

  Many people ask me and others probably wonder: what exactly is counselling?   Counselling is not about healing others. I don’t heal anyone. I walk alongside the men* I work with as they heal themselves.   When I work with a man, I start by being in his corner so that he can learn […]

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Visual Counselling: Using Illustration in Sessions

People rarely come to counselling when they are feeling fantastic. They come to counselling because they want to change something; they feel out of balance or they are stuck in a pattern. In short, they come because of some problem. So naturally the first step is to identify the problem. While it is reasonable and […]

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Visual counselling: Visual notes and diagrams on the spot

I am offering a couple of examples based on actual sketches I have used in session. All of the content has been changed, of course, to honour my clients’ confidentiality. Click here to see examples of illustrations used in counselling sessions. My client came in saying she was really feeling “the blues.” After hearing her […]

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Saying yes to the whole beautiful mess

This idea of acceptance has me wrapt. It is no small thing to accept the life I have: my past with all its pains, heartaches and mistakes; my present with all the worries and fears, risks and uncertainties of a career and home and family; my rapidly growing city with its few secure jobs, its […]

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The Challenge of Acceptance

I have been thinking a lot about acceptance, about how difficult it is to do and about how the word simply does not reflect how challenging it is. One of my beloved teachers reminds me that we tend to think of acceptance as a passive process when in fact acceptance is a very active process, […]

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Loving the Ordinary

In her 2010 TEDx talk Brene Brown says: “In this world, somehow, an ordinary life has become synonymous with a meaningless life and so often we are missing what is truly important because we are on the quest for the extraordinary.” How true! But what is it about the idea of having an ordinary life […]

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