What exactly is counselling?
A Picture of Men’s Shame
Many people ask me and others probably wonder: what exactly is counselling? Counselling is not about healing others. I don’t heal anyone. I walk alongside the men* I work with as they heal themselves. When I work with a man, I start by being in his corner so that he can learn […]
Accountability Without Shame
Let me paint a picture for you. This is what men’s shame looks like in my counselling practice: Shame is the curve of your shoulders as you sit, hunched in your chair across from me, almost cowering Shame is the nervous laughter when I comment on something unique or strong about you and you just […]
At the Edge of the Cliff: Men Who Have Been Violent
You have a sick feeling in your stomach, a dread. You have a voice inside that has started telling you that you’re a piece of shit for what you did. Sometimes the voice whispers at you and sometimes it screams. It is there in your quiet moments when you are just trying to relax. It […]
You’ve been that guy. The one who scares people, who lost control. Maybe you raised your hand to the person you love or maybe you frightened your kids. Maybe you punched back, first in self-defence and then kept going in rage. Now the people in your life look at you differently. They are cautious around […]