What exactly is counselling?
Accountability Without Shame
Many people ask me and others probably wonder: what exactly is counselling? Counselling is not about healing others. I don’t heal anyone. I walk alongside the men* I work with as they heal themselves. When I work with a man, I start by being in his corner so that he can learn […]
Some Thoughts on Kindness
You have a sick feeling in your stomach, a dread. You have a voice inside that has started telling you that you’re a piece of shit for what you did. Sometimes the voice whispers at you and sometimes it screams. It is there in your quiet moments when you are just trying to relax. It […]
I have been thinking a lot about kindness. The Dalai Lama said, “My true religion is Kindness.” What does this mean for me? How do I put this into practice? And what place does kindness have in counselling? How is kindness different from niceness in counselling? To the last question, I see a profound difference […]