What exactly is counselling?
Accountability Without Shame
Many people ask me and others probably wonder: what exactly is counselling? Counselling is not about healing others. I don’t heal anyone. I walk alongside the men* I work with as they heal themselves. When I work with a man, I start by being in his corner so that he can learn […]
At the Edge of the Cliff: Men Who Have Been Violent
You have a sick feeling in your stomach, a dread. You have a voice inside that has started telling you that you’re a piece of shit for what you did. Sometimes the voice whispers at you and sometimes it screams. It is there in your quiet moments when you are just trying to relax. It […]
Visual Counselling: Using Illustration in Sessions
You’ve been that guy. The one who scares people, who lost control. Maybe you raised your hand to the person you love or maybe you frightened your kids. Maybe you punched back, first in self-defence and then kept going in rage. Now the people in your life look at you differently. They are cautious around […]
People rarely come to counselling when they are feeling fantastic. They come to counselling because they want to change something; they feel out of balance or they are stuck in a pattern. In short, they come because of some problem. So naturally the first step is to identify the problem. While it is reasonable and […]